The Role of Sexual Intercourse

Sexual intercourse was designed by God to unify a married couple and to further participate in God’s ongoing creation.

Marriage is the union of a male and female for the rest of their lives. This is not just a Catholic definition, but a universal one. Today’s world is the first time in history that atempts have been made to redefine marriage.

The spouses make a mutual promise (commitment) to each other to support and love one another so long as they both shall live (marital unity is broken at death). The goal of marriage is to help your spouse get to heaven.

Marriage is a sacrament and all sacraments have signs. The way the sacrament is carried out is through the couple getting married, not the priest. Each spouse is the medium through which each half of the union receives grace; the vows that they say at marriage are binding.

The sign of marital unity, as has been the custom of many, many cultures and is a very ancient sign, is sexual intercourse. A marriage is not made whole (consummated) until the couple has sexual intercourse.

Sex is a unitive action in which the couple unite themselves to each other with God (in marriage, not fornication). The gift of sex also has another natural function and that is to reproduce. The sexual organs make up our reproductive system.

The two primary purposes of sexual intercourse are to unite the couple and to create more people. God gave us the gift of sex to participate in his Creation. To use the sexual organs in a manner that is not ordered towards unity of a married couple or creating further life is wrongly ordered or disordered.

Another gift of sexual intercourse is pleasure. The role of pleasure in sex is a well-debated topic however pleasure is a part of the sex act for many possible reasons. The Pleasure in sexual intercourse helps create the unity. Also it may be that since the pain of childbearing is so great we have a moment of pleasure to help ease that. Whatever the reason we know it exists.

To have sex simply for pleasure or to have the sexual organs stimulated in such a way where pleasure is the only objective is hedonistic and wrong. To obtain sexual pleasure only for itself demeans the sanctity of humanity and hurts at least one person.

Using a human being as a means to an end is wrong. Some may not think that they are not hurting anyone when in fact they may be hurting themself most of all. Seeking pleasure for the sake of pleasure reduces human existence to a piece of entertainment only to be thrown away when it no longer gives us a thrill.

A proper marriage cannot occur in this fashion because it does not allow the person(s) affected by this to freely and truly love his or her spouse. His or her spouse merely becomes a means to an end. The spouse is used to “get something”. Marriage is about mutual giving, self-giving.

Even in sexual intercourse can a person be abused or used as a means to an end. It is not to say that all sexual acts other than intercourse are the only ones in which people seek pleasure in and of itself.

In any case where the sexual organs are used merely for pleasure or cannot be used to unify a married couple and produce children (if the couple is biologically capable of producing children) then that is wrongly ordered. Sexual intercourse is ordered toward the unification of male and female in love to produce children as a fruit of that love.

Comments

  1. Thomas says

    True love comes with many challenges and to love one another to marry that person you really love do the things you and he want to do and it could be going out to a bar and dining room or show your own body in a private room with your lover or take him somewhere fun if you do not agree with your boyfriend on having sexual contact or your parents ay it is humiliating then tell your parents what you want to do to keep your love with him stable anything you want to know about love ask your parents first

  2. Thomas says

    If i said sexual intercours is truly evil i will loose my dignity, morality and the path to elightment with god like Buddha he thinks he is born to tell people about his great findings of the world and he says when there is no love there is no suffering and if Buddha was really a sage with a few almighty powers of his own becaus egod made him like that not Satan and remember love is not just a set mimble of our faith in god i believed if humans never dissapeared i would be happier and only listen to god rather than listen to Buddha’s sutra because only darkness made god and Jesus Christ to make the world not for evil he did not know Satan would rebel i have understand but not fully but in my hert if you feel god is hiding his true identity then sob in tears

  3. Thomas says

    Because god loves us but if i did not break the law again i bet god will say you will have one more chance to repent and if you cant prove to me about anything before you die at an old age you will see yourself tied up and watch Satan suffer slowly or make it quick death for satan becaus eangels do not care where they are put they love god but not satan and he was bored and overcifident of his greediness

  4. Thomas says

    Na cha the great is born way back and i knew why na cha the great’s mother hid it because he was born in a ball of lesh and don’t guess hongkong is lacking of making people famous and to their full view of love and the destruction that may follow

  5. Thomas says

    Because the world is not always strong and i i died the world will not even live my sorrow wil rip your minds out like jigsaaw will rip your greed

  6. Thomas says

    So you like to disobey god Ken no one listens to your dam crap! i am 21 yrs old and have not seen a stubborn person if you were brave i with put you with the evil gingerbread man who was accused of murder and you will be like oh shit! this is unholy and say get me out of her christ im sorry

  7. Thomas says

    Love is like fate Na cha the great can say now i know why they have to follow the legend and the story of him but what ever people but fear god because their greed knoew no boudaries of how you should have knew how you should have perfect clothing a good realtionship but what i know is ask a priest not a catholic priest or i will get Sdu police to slam your heart

  8. Thomas says

    I can tell you no one knew how jesus was born i can not read christ’ss skill because his father the lord of heaven and hell does not take no for an answer he wil judge you and ask what makes you worthy in heaven and even if you believed in me and I bet god will say i am not god then because i was just a mortal and you think the world is made easy and i thought science was makes us joyful but i was totally dreaming

  9. Thomas says

    wrong you think Christanity is fake but all you knew is god sended Jesus Christ to die on the cross and gave up his almigty power to save our sins from your lies and you deceive god you shall not be with god he does not take no for a answer

  10. Thomas says

    wrong you think hell cant hold our greeds when we show greed and what means god wants to understand us more and find ways to make hell a zillon times stronger than Satan’s power the king of hell and because no mortal can get such superpower when born as a mortal or you want to know how god really made thye world then ask him and i also not him and i can only tell you lve is what people never will understand and i totally agree rape is bad and deserves to be spanked bare with undies down and get wacked on the buttocks 120 times if can resist for a long period of time

  11. Thomas says

    No what I mean is you are wrong do not have sexual intercourse everytime he is curious about any love because it is pure but loves someone in your way it is not why you you judge love may be your definite aswer like repent and know god loves to ignore you as much as he is arrogant

  12. Thomas says

    I meant god does not know himself really well but he is almity, omnicent and superpowerful because no mortal can hold onto a real gods power but i know god will never lie we can never understand him with normal science

  13. Thomas says

    You are totally not making people understand the sexual intercourse forms to make perfect love, love takes time and even with your spouse and I’m nit very convinced that sex or the gender is inhumane

  14. Thomas says

    No still God is not what he thinks he will try to test how strong your pure love is and if he thinks it is greed then again i do think you like to judge others so if I was Sdu police officer I will slam your face, just like kobe and Ah Yan they were supposed to live happy not to metion Chinese expectations is not proper

  15. Thomas says

    Sexual Intercourse is not abnormal it is a complicated love form you will never understand and what to do when you have a crush on a female do not ever mak her like what you want from her in a relationship

  16. Daniel says

    I Love this.
    May God bless you, your ministry, and the entire Christians .
    May the Holy Spirit continue to guide and teach the Catholic Faith and lead us salvation.
    Bless Be God

  17. Raven says

    U can still have a sexual and marital relationship with him ask god and after the deed is done repent (alot)

    Sorry this comment might not help much the reason for It being that I am only 15

  18. Valerie says

    Jeanne, I’m not a very religious person. As I’ve had a long history with a bunch of churches as a child and was baptized Jehovah Witness, and practiced that religion for about 6 years of my childhood. So i don’t know a lot about the Catholic religion. My husband is, however, Catholic. And what I gather from talking to his family, is that Catholics do NOT believe in divorce. There is only one way to get a divorce when you’re a Catholic, and that’s an annulment (I believe that’s what they said)

  19. Jeanne says

    I have fallen in love with a catholic man who has not lived with his wife for 6yrs. He tells me he cannot get divorced and he can’t have sexual relations with me because he will not go to heaven. I am a Christian baptized and confirmed, as are my children, Lutheran Missouri synod our faith and churches are very much alike. I want him to have peace in The Lord but I do not understand why he cannot divorce. His marriage ended physically yrs ago. Please help me with an answer

    • Ken says

      I am posting a half year behind, but will do so anyway. Regardless of whatever marital troubles this man is going through for however long, marriage only ends at the death of one of the spouses. To have pre-marital sex will kill both of your relationships with God ending with Hell if not repented of. He is married, and as such off limits. In the beginning, there was no divorce. When Christ came he restored the true meaning of marriage. Meaning there is no divorce of a sacramental marriage. An annulment is a declaration that a sacramental marriage never existed between a male and female to begin with, and only rightfully given when PROVEN. To pursue a relationship with him will make you an adulterer (this includes any time during which an annulment is being investigated), and if he concedes will make him an adulterer as well, killing both of your relationships with God and putting both of you on the path to Hell. If you truly love (agape) this person, you will cease and desist any thought of pursuing a relationship. Most likely this will entail removing yourself from common occasions of acquaintance. I hope this helps.

      • The Don says

        You will not go to hell for having pre-marital sex nor will you go to hell for having sex for pleasure.

      • Ken says

        I believe you are totally wrong. God forgives all sins no matter what they are. Having Sexual relations before marriage is not a sin in the eyes of God only in the eyes of the Catholic Doctrine, which is manmade and the doctrine did not come from God as the Bible did.

    • Carmen Montanez says

      An annulment is not a divorce. Marriage is a Sacrament. An annulment is a declaration by a Church tribunal (a Catholic church court) that a marriage thought to be valid according to Church law actually fell short of at least one of the essential elements required for a binding union from the beginning (United States conference of Catholic Bishops) – see more information here: http://www.usccb.org/issues-and-action/marriage-and-family/marriage/annulment/

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