A Guide to Catholic Baptism

Baptism is the first of seven sacraments and the way in which a person becomes a member of the Catholic Church.

Who can receive a Catholic baptism?

Anyone who has not already been baptized can receive the sacrament of Baptism in the Catholic Church. The Catechism of the Catholic Church states that “Every person not yet baptized and only such a person is able to be baptized,” (paragraph 1246). Baptism leaves an indelible (permanent) mark on the soul and there is no way nor any reason that one could be re-baptized.

 There are no age restrictions for baptism; you cannot be too old or too young to be baptized.

Who can perform a Catholic baptism?

Anyone can perform a baptism, however this is typically done only in extreme cases in which someone’s life is in danger. The Catholic Church has ordinary ministers for sacraments and those are bishops, priests, and sometimes deacons. An ordinary minister is one who has been entrusted with the authority to perform the sacrament although the responsibility for performing a sacrament can usually be delegated. For example, a bishop is the ordinary minister for Confirmation, but can give permission to a priest to do a Confirmation; a priest does not have the authority to do a confirmation without the permission of his bishop. However, priests do have the authority to do baptisms without the permission of the bishop and sometimes delegate the responsibility to a deacon if one is available.

Most baptisms are done by a priest or deacon when the person is an infant, but there are extreme cases when even an unbaptized person can baptize someone. All that is required is “the will to do what the Church does when she baptizes, and to apply the Trinitarian Baptismal formula.” If this is done it is usaully because someone is lying on his/her deathbed and they truly desire to become Christian. How is this type of Baptism valid you ask? Well, the Church believes in the universal saving will of God and the necessity of Baptism for salvation (1 Timothy 2:4, John 3:5).

Can someone be baptized twice?

Baptizing someone twice is not necessary so long as the person was baptized using the Trinitarian formula described above. Some churches do not use the Trinitarian formula and therefore their baptisms are not valid and one would need to baptized again. It is not a sin to be baptized twice, but one need not be baptized twice in most cases.

Does the Catholic Church accept baptisms from another church?

Yes, the Catholic Church recognizes any baptism that uses water and in which the baptized was baptized was the words “I baptize you in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.” Some churches do not use the trinitarian formula for baptism and thus their baptisms are not valid.

Why are children baptized?

Children receive baptism primarily to remove original sin, but can serve as a great family tradition in which to inculturate one’s child into the faith of the family. Infant baptism has been debated for centuries. First, let us appeal to the Bible. John 3:5 says, “Jesus answered, ‘Amen, amen, I say to you, no one can enter the kingdom of God without being born of water and Spirit.’” Note that Jesus says “no one” can enter heaven in that passage. In the spirit of brevity here is the short answer straight from the Catechism:

“The practice of infant Baptism is an immemorial tradition of the Church. There is explicit testimony to this practice from the second century on, and it is quite possible that, from the beginning of the apostolic preaching, when whole “households” received baptism, infants may also have been baptized,” (Acts 16:15,33; 18:8; 1 Corinthians 1:16).
(Catechism of the Catholic Church, paragraph 1252)

What does the Grace of Baptism accomplish?

Catholic Baptism does five things specifically.

  1. It forgives all sins that may have been committed prior to a person’s baptism including original sin, mortal sins, and venial sins, and it relieves the punishment for those sins.
  2. It makes the newly baptized person “a new creature.”
  3. It turns the person into a newly adopted son of God and a member of Christ. Baptism incorporates one into the Church which is the body of Christ.
  4. It brings someone into the flock of the faithful and brings them to share in the royal priesthood of Christ (1 Pet. 2:9-10). Catholic baptism gives a share in the common priesthood of all believers and it also brings about the sacramental bond of the unity of Christians. Paragraph 1271 of the Catechism says it best:

    Baptism constitutes the foundation of communion among all Christians, including those who are not yet in full communion with the Catholic Church: “For men who believe in Christ and have been properly baptized are put in some, though imperfect, communion with the Catholic Church. Justified by faith in Baptism, [they] are incorporated into Christ; they therefore have a right to be called Christians, and with good reason are accepted as brothers by the children of the Catholic Church. Baptism therefore constitutes the sacramental bond of unity existing among all who through it are reborn.”

  5. Last, but certainly not in the least, baptism leaves and indelible spiritual mark (character) of belonging to Christ on the soul. Nothing you can do will take away this mark even if you sin a million times. Those sins may not grant you salvation, but you will always carry the mark of a Christian on your soul, therefore making re-baptism impossible.

Can someone receive the Grace of Baptism without being baptized?

Yes, those who die for their faith but were never baptized receive the grace of baptism by blood. This is often called martyrdom – being killed for your faith and never, not even for a second, compromising it. Also, those truly seeking baptism, but are unable to receive it due to extenuating circumstances can receive it by desire. If the person has an explicit desire for baptism and is repentant of their sins then they will be “baptized.”

What is the form and matter of Baptism?

The form of a sacrament is the words that are said when performing or receiving the sacrament. In the case of Baptism this would be, “I baptize you in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.” The matter of a sacrament is the physical signs that are present or used such as water and oil in the case of baptism.

What is the role of Godparents?

Godparents for Catholic Baptism are like sponsors for Confirmation. However, they take on a different role since usually only children have godparents for baptism. Their role is to take over or assist in the faith development of the person being baptized in the event that his/her parents cannot or if they neglect the child. This fulfills the baptismal promise of being raised in the Catholic faith.

Comments

  1. Lorina says

    Hi, Me and my husband are both catholic. We are living in Canada. I’m a permanent resident and my husband is a Canadian citizen. We want our daughter to be baptise in the phillippines. Is that possible?

    Thank you!

  2. Dorothy says

    I was baptized catholic as a baby. I was re baptized and joined the LDS church when I was 19. I left the LDS church 3 years later. It did not meet my needs. Have not attended church since. I am 73. Can I attend Catholic church and receive communion. I realized early on that I had made a mistake joining the LDS church. I have always thought of my self as Catholic.

    • John says

      Based on your brief information, the Catholic Church would welcome you back with open arms. It would be best if you sat down with your local priest and had a conversation with him. You probably want to go to confession before receiving the Eucharist. You might even want to join the RCIA program and receive confirmation if you have not done so. I had an 83 year old grandmother in my class last year and we had a joyful celebration on Easter. She was wonderful.

    • Mike says

      Hello Dorothy,

      You most definitely could attend Mass and it is always strongly suggested no matter what circumstances. As far as receiving communion I would talk to your parish priest but I can’t see them having an issue if you’ve already received the sacrament of communion. Sure there are the circumstances such as being divorced supposedly cannot receive communion, but there has been a recent story of the pope himself calling a local priest allowing the priest to not restrict communion to those who have received the sacrament.

  3. Sylvia says

    Hello,

    My ex has made several threats to me that there will be no baptism of our 3 month old until court is over, and that my son’s last name changes to his. We are currently in the beginning stages of a high conflict custody battle. My family agrees that we should do the baptism anyway, as there should be absolutely no reason for a child to be stopped at receiving the Holy Sacrament (just because of a last name)
    It also bothers me that my ex (who is a religion teacher at a catholic school) does NOT follow the catholic faith. In fact, he is against many of the teachings and I have several emails proving this from the past.
    My lawyer told me that there is no law against me baptizing my son without his permission, but I read online somewhere that this can be used against me in court.
    What should I do?

  4. kris says

    Hi, my friend wants to baptize their baby, but the priest won’t allow it because they aren’t married yet. He told them they have to attend church for 6 weeks as part of preparation and they have to get married. Before the mass he came up to them and told them they cannot receive Holy Communion because they are living together. How can they baptize their child? The priest is a Hindu catholic and speaks poor english.

  5. Veronica says

    Good day,
    I have two boys, 8 years old and 11 years old, I would like them to be baptized as Catholics, I am Catholic and my ex-husband is Muslim. Do I need my ex husband consent to get my kids baptized.
    He said to wait until they are adults for them to choose what religion, but I think as they are still kids they need a blessing, and would like for them to have the Catholic baptism. Would I need my ex permission to do this?
    Thank you in advance.
    VD

    • kris says

      Muslims are nothing but trouble, they are controlling and their wives have no decission. Ever see the movie Not Without My Daughter? You have to stand up and be in control of your childrden, not him. This is America and women rule. You are the mother and you tell him you are baptizing them. If anything, do it behind his back. Don’t let him treat you this way. Stand up for yourself and your rights. You are the mother to your children and you have more rights than him.

  6. Blanca says

    My son is 7 years old and has cerebral palsy. I’m a Catholic, is it possible for him to be baptized without attending catechism?

  7. Marcia says

    I am a born Catholic and I married a man who is Hindu. I have two kids a three year old daughter and a 11 month old son. My daughter currently attends The Catholic school . I asked him to get the kids baptised and he was okay with it. I came home yesterday and his mother (mother in law) approached me saying that the kids are born hindu and will die a Hindu. I have respected their religion and never once critize it. She is saying that once I baptise the kids they will become Catholic. Can you please explain to me what I can do in such situation where I have my in laws who feel they can control me and my kids life.

    • says

      I am very sorry to hear of your situation and it sounds like you are having some relationship difficulties with your mother-in-law. This is not a battle for you to fight on your own, but should be fought together with your husband. Ask for his support and for him to talk with his mother-in-law.

  8. Jen says

    I’m expecting my first next year. I am Catholic. My dilemma is godparents.
    None of my close friends or relatives are Catholic…or they are not “good” Catholics.
    For example, my youngest brother received all of the sacraments (baptism, communion, confirmation) but he and his fiancee chose to be married by a judge (they are both attorneys). If I read correctly, this means he now is no longer “catholic” enough for the job. I am at a loss of what to do.

  9. Jelly says

    Hello! I’m a Catholic who just had a baby 3 weeks ago. I wish to attend a mass this Sunday since it’s the first time I felt better after giving birth and I want my son to come with me. We’re planning his Baptism on his second month. Is he allowed to come with me even though he’s not baptized yet?

  10. justcallmeD says

    Hi, I am 25 years old and got a baby who’s 1 year old now. I am so totally worried because I am a catholic but I cannot remember if I was able to have my communion. All I remembered when I was asked if am I catholic or not and I answered her I am not.(I was gradeschool at that time). Please help, I need to follow the rules of a catholic. Im scared because maybe Jesus will not forgive me and wont ever accept me when I died.

    • WSquared says

      Be not afraid. Jesus does love you and your family, and He wants you to come to Him. He in fact can and will make it all possible. One of the very real ways in which He does that is the priests through whom He acts. Please go and see a Catholic priest as soon as you can. Tell him about your situation, and let him help you.

  11. Elizabeth says

    Hello,
    My husband and I are having our first child baptized this month. The Decan wants to meet with us first. What kinds of questions should I expect during this meeting?

    Just some background about us… I was raised a Catholic but my husband was raised Presbyterian. He wants our son baptized catholic as do I. I have not attended mass regularly in recent years but now that I am a mother I want to carry on the same traditions I had with my son. We just joined this parish a week ago also.

  12. rozee says

    hi, i am already baptised when i was a child. my godmother is not good to me. i want to baptized again. she is not like my other godmothers/godfathers. she almost boxed me. she is so mean and arrogrant. she is not good to me. what to do??? a godmother should be good to her niece. my aunt is my godmother. i am thinking to baptize again. can i?

    • says

      Hello rozee. It sounds like in your culture that godparents take on quite a bit more significance than in my culture, but as far as the sacrament of baptism is concerned, once you have been baptized you are baptized forever regardless of any future actions your godparents may take (such as leaving the faith, mistreatment, etc.). Your baptism is in Christ, not in your godmother. Your hope is in Christ and he will be your strength in the face of your persecution.

  13. Nikki says

    I am pregnant with my first child. The baby’s father and I are not married but are together. He was baptized catholic as an infant and we would like to have our child baptized as well. However, I am not catholic and everything I read about the churches near me is that we have to become members of the church and attend classes in order to have our child baptized. I do not attest this except my question is can I become a member of the church without attending RCIA or being baptized/converted? If not, would I be able to attend my child’s baptism under the same conditions?

    • says

      Hello, Nikki. Yes, you can become a member of a parish even if you are not Catholic. You, personally, would not be able to celebrate the sacraments unless you become Catholic, but you would be able to join a parish and attend the baptism.

  14. Rose says

    I just watched an infant baptism where the priest carried the baby to the front and introduced him to the people. My child will be baptized at 13 months old and will be bigger and most-likely walking at that time. Is there a different approach they take with a toddler baptism?

    • says

      That’s a good question for your priest. His presentation of the infant to the congregation is not a standard practice. It doesn’t mean what he is doing is wrong, but it’s not part of the rubrics.

  15. Adam T. says

    I was raised Catholic and my wife Baptist. We are expecting our first child in a couple of months and plan to raise our children Catholic. My wife has not converted to Catholicism yet, but we want our child baptized in the Catholic church shortly after birth. My understanding is that my wife’s status will not affect our ability to baptize our baby. Is that correct?

  16. Shirley says

    I have a friend in Mexico who will be baptizing her baby, and one of the baby’s to be Godparent is Indian Hindu. Can he be a Godfather even if he’s not a Catholic?

  17. Kayla says

    Hello,

    I have always identified as a Christian even though I did not attend church regularly as a child. I am in my early twenties and I have been going to mass with my boyfriend on and off for a few months now and have been thinking about being baptized as a catholic. I have always wanted to be baptized, but I have never belonged to a church or identified with a certain denomination of Christianity. I don’t know where to begin. I am currently in school and move around a lot so I am always going to different churches. Do I need to belong to a certain church to be baptized? How long do I need to attend mass before I can be baptized? And what are the steps I need to take to become baptized? Thanks!

  18. Vanessa says

    Hi my husband is catholic and I am a Christian. We are currently deciding on baptizing our daughter in the Catholic Church but are wondering if it would be a issue that I am a Christian and that we were married in a Christian church.

    • says

      I don’t believe that to be an issue, but it is always best to check with your local Catholic parish to make sure. You are both Christian as Catholics are the first Christians. I believe you to mean that you are non-denominational Christian, is that correct?

    • says

      I think there’s something going wrong madam vanessa,this child of ua’s will be confused in which dinomination to follow since every dinomination hs their teachings, others dont follow the bible teachings fully, so why dont u stiked in christianity and let ua chirld to be baptise there?

  19. Beth says

    Hello,

    I was wondering if you could help. My friends have asked me to be Godmother for their little boy at his Catholic Baptism.

    I was christened in a COE church but have no evidence of this other than the name of the church and the approximate month and year.

    Would this be a problem and would I still be able to be his Godmother in these circumstances.

    Many Thanks

    Beth

  20. Amy says

    To have my child baptized does he need godparents? I understand the role of godparents but what if no one in our life fits that role?

  21. Brigette says

    Please help I take my catholic religion quite serious and have baptized my daughter 2 years ago and now she is 2.5 years old. At the time I picked my sister and a gf to be the god parents to my child believing that they would fulfill the responds ability. To my shock they have not been around or even bothered being in my child’s life and feel that my daughter deserves to have good god parents that will be there for her.
    I have been losing sleep about this and was wanting to re baptize her with new responsible god parents as I feel that it would help me and my daughter please help as I have been a god mother twice and have fulfilled my role and still do and take it quite seriously

  22. Alycia says

    My daughters are three and were baptized in the Catholic church. Both sets of god parents have not been active in their lives. I would like to have them both re-baptized by a friend of mine who more than qualifies. Is this possible?

      • Alycia Numkena says

        I understand that it is a one time event, but isnt one of the purposes of baptism is to have someone as an additional spiritual guide? If those people are 100% not involved in their lives shouldnt there be an exception? I know you dont make the “rules,” its just a question.

        • says

          Yes, this can be quite a dilemma for some people. The primary purpose of the sacrament is to initiate someone into the life of God. The blessed water, infused with the Holy Spirit, has been poured over the child, and s/he has been sealed with the Holy Spirit through the anointing with oil. The baptismal rite has been completed and your child is now a child of God. Baptism leaves an unremoveable mark on the soul signifying that the person has been baptized. Regardless of the status of the godparents, your child is still a child of God and that will never change. The baptisms purpose has been fulfilled. The purpose of Baptism is not to name godparents for someone, but rather to initiate the person into the Church.

          If you find later on that the godparents you chose are no longer fit for the task then you are free to associate with and have your child associate with someone who is a better fit.

          The focus in any sacrament is about the change that God makes in us through his grace communicated to us via the sacrament.

  23. Ashish Agarwal says

    I want to know that is there any rule in India that anybody get the money after taking baptism from Hindu to catholic christian. My friend in India became christian from Hindu & he wants to know about that because he listen from somewhere that if you convert from one cast to another then you will get some money from that religion.

  24. Ashish Agarwal says

    is there any rule in india that anybody get the money after taking baptism from hindu to catholic christian

  25. Teresa Nicole says

    I was baptized as a Christian almost a year ago to the day. I was not baptized with the Trinitarian formula; I was baptized in the name of Jesus Christ.
    Over this year I have made the decision to become Catholic. I understand that to the Catholic Church this is not a valid baptism, but it was the most real and wonderfully emotional experience of my life.
    Now I am having a difficult time in understanding that my baptism was not real. So when I start my journey to Catholicism, do I need to make my baptismal circumstances known and get re-baptized?

  26. Anthony says

    My dad is Italian, raised in Brooklyn, I have always been a proud catholic! Two years ago when I got engaged to my non catholic wife, the first person we talked to was the Deacon regarding getting married in the church. We were excited, then weeks later the Deacon communicated that we did not have enough time. I was sad. Now we have a 4 month old baby and my only wish is for her to get baptized. In our meeting with the Deacon, he stated that our marriage would not be recognized in Catholic church and that I could not receive the sacrament. I had my first communion when I was eleven and have been receiving the sacrament ever since. My feeling were hurt. Now the deacon is scheduled to baptize my baby. I’m ashamed that I have resentment toward the Deacon. What should I do?

  27. ctm says

    Good Morning,
    I have a question my son would like to have his son baptized, he is 3 weeks old. But my grandson parents are not together. My son would like to have his son baptized and has choosen my grandson god-father. The mother of my grandson is catholic and wants to have him bapitzed also, but she would like her sister to be the god-mother. right now her sister is working on getting all her sacrements completed. My question is can my son have my grandson bapitized at one time and can grandson’s mother bapitzed him another time?

      • ctm says

        Jon,

        Can my grandson be baptized twice? We are not sure when she will actually have him baptized. Can he get baptized at 2 different catholic parishes?

        • says

          If a child is presented for Baptism at another parish after having been baptized elsewhere, if the second parish doesn’t know that the child has been baptized elsewhere, the ceremony could be performed twice. However, only the first time will the sacrament actually take place since you can be baptized only once.

  28. maricela says

    Hi my name is Maricela and i had a question. My husband and i are married by civil court and we have a daughter that will be baptized by Catholic. We asked his sister and her husband to be godparents they said yes. My question is can we baptize one of her kids when they baptizey daughter. Also can my husband be part of the ceremony even though he has not yet been baptized. Thank you!

  29. marie dutton says

    Based on the information, then, is it impossible to baptise some one on his death bed who is an atheist (for example)? i was taught that it is the faith of Christ that provides the grace for the Baptism. (So, an infant has no need to consciously participate in the gift he is receiving. The infant is receiving – not giving.) I thought maybe that same gift might be extended to some one at the point of death – some one who has become unable (like the infant) to purposefully choose to reject Christ….. ???

  30. Pat Anderson says

    My daughter plans on having my grandson baptized Catholic, even though she is not Catholic. Her boyfriend (not my grandson’s father), however, is Catholic, though he has not to the best of my knowledge been a practicing one for many years. I believe she is having my grandson baptized for all the wrong reasons, but she is determined to continue. I am at the point where I really have no wish to attend the ceremony because I am opposed to not letting him make his own decision when he’s ready. Not to mention the fact that they live nowhere within the parish they are getting him baptized into. Please advise.

      • Pat Anderson says

        I do not know. She is not particularly religious and hasn’t been since she was a young girl. I suspect that she’s doing it to somehow please her boyfriend, or ingratiate herself in to his family. His 7th birthday is in August, and I think she wants to get it done before he reaches the age of reason. Is there any way I can object to this, like in a wedding? I’m sorry, I know this is a Catholic website, but I firmly believe that my grandson should make his own choice when he’s ready, not when she decides that he’s ready.

  31. beci says

    hi, my son as been refused a place at our local catholic primary school because he is not baptised catholic, he is baptised under the water under the words of the son the father the holy spirit, COE, but we go to catholic mass every Sunday and his 2 catholic sisters attend the school, should he be refused admission or is he accepted in a catholic church

  32. Colleen says

    I have been given permanent care of my granddaughter, I went to the Parish Office to see about getting her baptised. I went to their three meetings and at the last meeting the Priest said he had a problem with her being baptised. He said I had to call him and speak to him about it, however none of the other parents had any problems. I feel embarrassed and intimidated now and I never called him as it was the second time I tried to get her baptised, but they told me to come back after I had permanent care, which I did. What can I do. Can I go to another parish now and have her baptised, she is six years old and she heard the priest say he had problems with baptising her. Her parents were never married and her father is a Muslim Immigrant who has never seen her or had anything to do with her. Please help.

    • says

      Hi Colleen. I hope it was an unfortunate misunderstanding, but I think you should make your situation known to the priest or another staff member that he designates. If he said he has a problem, what problem did he give you? If he didn’t give details, then ask him to elaborate and explain how you felt by him talking like that in front of the child. I think that is the best place to start.

  33. Linda says

    Hello,
    My name is Linda and I’m currently 5 months pregnant and not baptised. My fiancé is a Christian orthadox and wants to be married in his church. I attend a Christian Catholic Church. I am too embarrassed to ask the priest if he will baptise me in order for us to get married before the baby arrives. Can you please tell me if this can be done and weather I should bother asking. I’m really desperate for some answers.
    Thank you

    • says

      Please do not be embarrassed! The priest should be more than happy to assist you with bringing you into the church. Your salvation is the reason he joined the priesthood!

  34. Myriam says

    Hello Jon,

    I am Catholic and baptized nearly 60 years ago in Europe. I received all my other sacraments as well. however, I do not have any written proof of any of these sacraments. Good friends of my asked me to be the god mother for their daughter which I accepted. After a while, i was informed I could not be a god mother since I don’t have the proof of my sacraments. Is there still a way to be a god mother? Please let me know. Thank you so much. Myriam

    • says

      Hi Myriam. Often times when this happens there are a couple options. If you know someone else who was at your baptism and could be used as a witness, an affidavit of baptism could be written in place of your baptismal certificate. Alternatively a priest could do a conditional baptism for you in order to make sure you have received the sacrament.

  35. Terry Reynolds says

    Since I was baptised in the L.D.S. Church, would I need to be re-baptised to join the Catholic Church? I have been reading a lot about the church and praying the rosary. To be honest, I feel a sence of peace doing that and have attended Mass in the past and felt very comfortable. I am thinking about becoming a member of the Catholic faith and wondered about how that would work. Thank you kindly for any answers you can offer. God bless.

      • Terry Reynolds says

        Thank you for your reply Jon. I was also baptised in a baptist church years before being baptised in the L.D.S. Church, would I still need to be re-baptised? What if I have no baptismal certificate from the baptist church, would I have to have that?

        • says

          Hi Terry. Typically the Catholic Church recognizes baptisms from Baptist churches, but I am not clear on how the Church records or validates that. Baptists don’t treat baptism the same way as we do so there wouldn’t be a baptismal record from the Baptist church to prove it. This would be a good question to bring to an RCIA class if you decide to join the Catholic Church.

  36. Stacey says

    Hi.
    I have a 3 month old baby. The father and i are not getting along!
    I want to baptize my child and the father is saying no!
    Am i allowed to baptize my child without permission?

    • says

      Typically both parents should be involved, however in certain circumstances exceptions may be made. Please contact your parish to work with your situation.

  37. kendra says

    Hello my name is Kendra. I have a few questions for you if you may be so kind to answer. Well here is a briefing of the situation. I’m 19 years old, my daughter had just turned a year old. I was wondering if she can be baptized although I have not been? My mother wanted to but she never got around to it. Or must I be baptized first? I have been to church, its been a while though. Also if I can baptize her can I do so being a single mother? And must the god parents be baptized also in order to be her god parents? Whom must I go to, to ask about all of this? Also must her birth father be present at the time of baptism? Please I need information. Thank you.

    • says

      Hi Kendra
      you do not have to be baptized in order to baptize your baby – you must have the intent of raising your baby in the Catholic Church. As for yourself you should contact your local Catholic church and ask about the RCIA program which will give you instruction and prepare you for your own baptism, confirmation and first communion.
      God Bless – you are heading in the right direction

    • says

      Kendra – yes your godparents need to be baptized, confirmed & received Holy Eucharist. They must be at least 16 years old and attend Church on a regular basis. If you are not with the baby’s father, he does not have to be present at the baptism, but you should get his permission – not mandatory if your are the custodial parent.

  38. Sahron says

    Hi
    I don’t have our sons baptism certificates are they registered on a registry as this was done is South Australia..

  39. Irene says

    Sorry I asked early if you can batize a baby if you are not married by church but, are married by court? We been married 12 yrs.

    • says

      Yes – your marriage situation should not prevent you from baptizing your baby – however, it would be best to talk with your parish priest about having your civil marriage validated in the Church – it is not that complicated to do.

  40. brandon says

    hi, im twenty years old and have never been baptized, my family is Methodist but I would like to be baptized and join the catholic church, is it necessary to have godparents at my age?

    • says

      Hi Brandon. You would go through a process called RCIA (Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults). You wouldn’t have godparents per se, but rather someone acts as your sponsor to move through the process with you and fulfill much the same role in an adult format.

  41. Karina says

    Hello, My husband and I are married through Catholic Church, we wanted to baptize our son. We had asked my husband’s brother and wife. They are married but not through church, and he’s catholic but she’s Jehovah witness. Is it possible to baptize or no.

  42. Jessica says

    I have a question, My boyfriend was asked to baptize a child of his friends with another women. I find it to be very disrespectful. We are not married but we are three months pregnant. Can he even baptize the child while being with someone?

  43. grace says

    PHi,I have very important,question,we have plan to get married.nxt year,but I just know now that I’m not baptist yet.
    And I’m twenty one years old now,can I get baptist and wedding on same day,I been church ,attend mass.receive bread frm god,but I did not know,before,that I’m not baptist ,I just know,now that prepared for plan to get married,I
    .thank you,I asked if it is allow if I do that baptist same day to our wedding,is that ok.thank you.I ll wait the answer

  44. Ron says

    Does the Catholic church accept the baptism of members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter day Saints (Mormons)? According to your explanation above it does because of the prayer they use when baptizing.I have a friend who is Catholic but his wife is Mormon. Will she be saved with her churches Baptism or will she need to be re-baptized ? I enjoy your web sight and look forward to your answer.

    Thanks

    Ron

  45. Ima says

    Ok so my husband and I baptized my daughter in the lutheran church September 1,2013. His family and him are catholic and now want to baptize her again in the catholic church but from what I have heard from many is no you cant if baptized once and in a different religion. A child should not be baptized again unless the childs life is in danger right?

  46. Diana says

    I have a serious question I had a baby with a guy we are not married but are in court status he dosen’t want me to baptize our son nd our son is 8 months already I want him baptize but the father dosent we do have a temporary domestic order nd says do not change childs religion doctor and so forth would that prevent a baptism from happening we are not changing the religion cuz his father is catholic too?? I need to know asap

  47. Erin says

    I have a question, my fiancee was raised Catholic and I am in the process of completing my RCIA classes to become a Catholic as well. I was previously married and have a 10 year old son of that marraige. My son’s biological father will not consent to me having my son Baptized as he does not believe in church, is there anyway I can have the ceromony completed without his approval? My son spends 90% of his time with myself and my fiancee and we plan to raise him in the Catholic faith and would like him to be baptized. At what age can he consent to the Baptism on his own?
    (I am in the process of having my previous marraige nullified so we may proceed to marry in a Catholic church as a side note)

    • says

      Hi Erin. Welcome to the Catholic Church! I hope you are looking forward to full communion at the Easter Vigil. I believe your son could seek baptism on his own as he is beyond the age of reason (7 years old). Parental consent is typically desirable, but I don’t know that he would need the support of both parents. You would need to find godparents who are willing to be a part of the process. God bless.

  48. Rochella Morris says

    Hi there,

    I am catholic and my husband Anglican.
    We were married in a Catholic Church. We now have a 3month old daughter and are torn as to which way to go with baptism. My husband feels the catholic do not accept other Christianity’s such as having communion ( as he could not have this at our catholic wedding reception) whilst in an Anglican chili rich anybody who has had holy communion from whatever church can. So my husband feels he will not be able to choose godparents in a catholic baptism as none of his friends/ family are.

    Please can you advise me

    • says

      Hi Rochella. For me the choice is simple: baptism in the church established by Jesus Christ, or baptism in a church that split away from the Catholic church by decree of an English king? Communion in the Catholic Church is the true body and blood of our Lord, something no other church can claim. To receive communion means that you believe and accept everything that church teaches. Catholics should not receive communion in other churches and the opposite is true as well because of what it signifies. When baptizing a young child the parents are making a pledge of faith on behalf of the child; if you are baptizing the child Catholic then you are pledging to raise that child as a Catholic. Knowing this, it follows that the Church requires the godparents to be Catholic. I will pray for you and your husband as you make your decision.

  49. James Patrick says

    Hi Sir Jon!

    Can one still be a godfather without being physically present during the baptism? my sister had her baby and i was wondering if i can still be its godfather even though im not there at the time of his baptism. thank you!

  50. Ricardo says

    I would like to know if I can be baptized in the Philippines. My father was a Roman Catholic, but he died when I was very young and as a result of this I was never baptized. I am now nearly 62 years. My girlfriend lives in Cebu in the Philippines and she would have liked for me to get baptized while I was visiting her. But apparently it would seem to be a complicated procedure, by some rules that say I have to reside their for six months. If there are such rules, then these rules are made by men and not God. I would have thought that God was a mercy full God and considering the Holy Catholic Church is a universal church, what difference would it make where I come from? But I suppose if I was to donate money to the church in question, it would be accepted and borders and origins would be forgotten.

  51. Alejandra says

    Me and my ex boyfriend baptis our daughter when she was 3 months and I was mostly not into the whole spiritual and didn’t really fully understand the whole point of baptizing our daughter. I went along with mostly because I just wanted to please him. And because he said as a mexican it was a tradition. As for the godparents they jut baptised and showed up 2-3 times and that was it.
    I remarried and both me and my husband are attending church every Sunday . Nobody force me into any religion, i went by choice ,And honestly ,i never felt more closer to god. Iam pregnant with my second child I want to baptis both of them at the same time. Can I ? Even though my oldest daughter is already baptis ?
    Thank you.

  52. crystal says

    Hello,

    I just recently baptized my 2 year old. The godparents that I had chosen for my child have recently went through divorce and the godfather has gone down a very dark path. I fear that my child may not have a very strong faithful path if I were to pass, and her godmother be the only one left to guide her. Can i re baptize with new godparents or what would be the correct steps?

    • says

      Hi there. I’m sorry to hear about your daughter’s godfather. Her baptism is not affected by this and so there would be no need to re-baptize her. I urge you to pray for the godfather and keep praying. While I cannot give official legal advice, I recommend that you draw up legal papers (a will or a trust, etc.) that specify where your child will be placed if you pass away. Select close friends or relatives that also have a good Catholic household and that share your values in order to provide a good faith background for your child in the event that you cannot.

  53. L Martinez says

    hello there i have a quick question we have baptized my oldest daughter now we are in the process of baptizing our second daughter my husband was chosen to be the godfather of my nephew along wit me we are married but not threw church he was baptized and did his communion however he hasnt done his confirmation, we are doing the baptism in puerto rico as this is where my family is at he might not be able to be present for the baptism is there a way a proxy can stand for him, also he cannot find his communion information as we have moved so many times that alot of our papers have been lost how can he become the godfather with no issues here in puerto rico they are so strict with what they want however we baptized our first daughter in the catholic faith already

  54. Alicia says

    My boyfriend and I have a 15 month old son & would love to baptize him, but we are not married & I’m not baptized but he is. Can we still baptize him?

  55. Venkat says

    Jon, I am originally a Indian citizen and a Hindu by birth, currently working in the US on a work permit visa, I have been exploring the Christian way for over a year now and would like to convert into a Catholic Christian. I would really appreciate if you have any insights on if it will be possible for me to get baptized in a church in the US though I am not an US citizen. Please let me know – Venkat

    • Sarah says

      As far as I know, you do not have to be a citizen in order to be baptized into the Catholic Church. The Church is often referred to as “universal,” and the religion of course transcends national borders. I’d suggest going to your local church and inquiring there, but I don’t think you should have any problem getting baptized, regardless of citizenship. The only potential hurdle would be if you plan not to be in the United States much longer – occasionally adults converting are told to take a class prior to baptism and if you aren’t around long enough to enroll and complete the class that might be an issue. Good luck and God Bless!

  56. Teresa says

    Hello,
    I have a quick question, I want to have my 3 year old son baptized this year by my sister and her husband. My sister is catholic and she is baptized by the Catholic Church but she had not done her confirmation. I heard from my mother in law that someone might be able to stand in for her who meets all the requirements but she would still be the godmother. Is this possible ? Can someone who meets all the requirements vouche for her, while my sister is the godmother?

  57. Greg says

    Hello,

    Neither I nor my wife are Catholic, (we are Apostolic Christians) but we would like our daughter to be baptized in a Catholic Church.

    I have two questing and would greatly appreciate it if someone can clarify this for us.

    Since we don’t have any close Catholic friend nor relatives, we would like to know if it’s absolutely necessary to have godparents in order to be baptized in Catholic Church?

    And my second questions is, if indeed its absolutely necessary to have godparents in order to be baptized in Catholic Church, do future godparents have to be Catholic, or as long as they are Christian that would be acceptable.

    Thank you!

    • Ivy Harrell says

      I don’t understand this…if you are Apostolic, then why would you want your daughter to be baptized in a Catholic Church? The Apostolic doctrine (teaching) is how Jesus taught His disciples, why would you deviate from that? Please re-read the Acts of the Apostles, especially Acts 2:38, the foundational scripture that Jesus intended for us all.

  58. tanya says

    I have been baptized catholic so has my other half. We are not married. I don’t attend church but would like to get my daughter baptized. Is it possible?

  59. Christina says

    I would like to baptize my daughter she’s five years old. My question is can I baptize my daughter even though her dad is not a part of our lives and the people I picked to be her godparents have not done there confirmation and neither have I? ??

  60. marco says

    Could you please tell me what the requirements are for godparents in the catholic church. Can we have three godparents and do the godparents have to be baptized catholic and have done their first communion ? thanks

  61. Lillian says

    Im trying to get my son baptise. the godparents that I want are my brother and sister-in-law, they are both married but not through the catholic church. How can I go abouts getting my son baptise by them.

  62. Faith sacayanan says

    My husband and i were filipino but our baby was born here in canada so he is a citizen,is it ok if he will be baptize in philippines?

  63. says

    Jon,

    My wife and I are going to Atlanta in a week to visit our daughter and her husband and soon to be 2 year old grandson. While raised Catholic, My daughter has stopped practicing her faith. She married a non catholic in a civil ceremony, and has no plans to baptize her son, as she feels he can decide for himself as he gets older. I spoke to my parish priest, and told him that when we are there, we plan to baptize him ourselves when they go out for a movie. I was told we need to just say the words 3 time for it to be valid. While I don’t like doing this behind her back in secret, I feel the benefits are too great to not do it. Any comments or suggestions?

    Peter

    • says

      Hi Peter. I understand your dilemma and it is a tough situation. I also recognize your love for Jesus and your grandchild hence the desire for his baptism. I’m not in favor of this method of baptism in part because it can create complications for the child later in life. There is no sacramental record in a baptism such as this. When baptizing a young child it is the parents who are making a promise on behalf of the child and will raise their child in the Catholic faith. At least he will be baptized, but he won’t have much else of a Catholic upbringing. If there is no grave danger of death, I see no reason to baptize the child under these circumstances in this way. It may be more fruitful in the long run to pray for the return of your daughter to the faith and that she and her husband will make the arrangements for baptism.

      • says

        Am in canada on vacation an would love to baptize my daughter i was also baptized in the cathloic church when i was young an would like to know were can i go to have it perform please thank you.

  64. jose says

    I have a quick question. Can you Baptist a child too a couple that isn’t married yet and I would be the God father and the mother in law would be a stranger to me but a friend of the mother?

  65. Jessica says

    Hello ;

    I’m 20 years old and I never been baptized my patents aren’t together anymore and my best friend for 20 years ask me to be the god mother of her child , how can I get baptized and where can I go cause I need my cefricate quick

    • says

      Hello, Jessica. It is clear that you feel honored by your best friend to be asked to be the godmother of her child by your desire to be baptized. Baptism is the first step in becoming a full Catholic Christian. As an adult the process typically takes many months during which you take classes culminating in your baptism, first communion, and confirmation at the Easter Vigil Mass. However, there are always exceptions, and the priest in your nearby parish, after meeting with you, might determine that you are fit for baptism. Baptism isn’t something that should be treated lightly to quickly get done so that you can move on to others things. Getting baptized is an acceptance of the entire Catholic faith and becoming a child of God. It’s a pretty big deal!

  66. Angie says

    I have a sister that’s catholic and she was baptize and first comformation. Can she still be a Godparent.

    • says

      Hi Angie. Did you mean first communion or confirmation? If she has not been confirmed she would typically not be a godparent, but it may still be possible. Please speak with your parish priest or staff for a better understanding.

  67. Alexis says

    Okay, I was born at 24 weeks. Because I was so premature, I had to be incubated and attached to several machines. I was in decline and about to die, so my Grandma baptized me with her holy water of Lourdes. Does this count as baptism? Would there be a certificate of this? I am told I need it to be married…does my baptism count?

  68. Tiannah says

    I have a 3week old son, I would love to get him baptized but I have been told I can’t because of the father nor I have been baptized, do I and the father have to be baptized before our son?

    And what’s a naming ceremony ??
    Thank you

  69. Pansy says

    Hi, I’m inquiring as to wether or not my daughter can be baptized. I’m a non-denominational christian and her father and I have never been married (we share custody) he and his family are Catholic and they are worried about original sin and if something should happen to her. She’s 6 now and has never been baptized. Can she be baptized in the Catholic church?

  70. Dcn. Tim O'Callaghan says

    Jon,
    I noticed under the section of who can perform a Baptism you state “Bishops, Priest and sometimes Deacons”, perhaps, it’s the diocese however in our diocese our deacons baptize on a regular basis, even inside of Mass.
    In His Service,
    Deacon Tim

    • says

      Thanks, Deacon! I updated the article to better explain the context. I was attempting to explain ordinary ministers, but in my conciseness I caused confusion. I have updated it to better explain the concept of an “ordinary minister” and to also emphasize that deacons often perform baptisms.

  71. Nichole says

    Quick Question. IF me And my husband were to ever bapitize a child would we have to do it as a couple or say the parents pick him only and not me his wife. As the god mother is that ok or do we have to do it together as a couple because we are married?

  72. Claudia says

    My husband and I are both Catholics but are not married through the church yet due to the fact that he is in the military. Is it possible for either or both of us to be godparents even though we aren’t married through the church yet?!

  73. Debra says

    I fell madly and deeply in love with the Catholic Church. Without going in to great detail I’m unable to get an annulment. I have never been baptized. Now I have just been diagnosed with terminal cancer with 3 or 4 months to live. Can I be baptized in the Catholic Church now? God Bless

  74. Patty says

    My husband is Coptic orthodox Christian and I am catholic. We were married in the Coptic Orthodox Church. We want to baptize our daughter in both the Coptic church and Catholic Church. Is that possible?
    Thanks!
    Patty

    • says

      Hi Patty. The baptism is valid in either church so you will have to pick one since baptism is to be done only once. The Coptic church, like our Orthodox brothers and sisters, has valid sacraments because they have valid apostolic succession. There are a few theological differences and the position of the Catholic Church is that it holds the fullness of the faith taught by Jesus Christ and handed down by his disciples. Whichever you choose, your child will be validly baptized and a member of the Christian family.

  75. Pauline Docherty says

    Hi,

    My mum was roman catholic (now deceased) I was never baptised due to my father’s religious beliefes. I ahve a 2 year old daughter and am currently seperated from my fiance. Can I get baptised into the Catholic faith? I have speant many years considering religion an dthe Catholic one feels to give me the most comfort. I am also planning to have my daughter baptised but have already been told that won’t be an issue.

  76. yazmin de la torre says

    hi. i’m 20 but haven’t done my confirmation. i was asked to be a godparent. i’m i still allowed to take the prebaptism classes and to be a godmother?

  77. John G says

    My best friend had a baby girl back in January and he chose me and somebody else to serve as godparents. The problem is neither of us (me and the godmother) have been baptized catholic. What is the best solution to this dilemma?

  78. Jennifer Lee says

    I am a practicing Roman Catholic. My son was just born & I have a couple in mind to be his godparents. They are devout practicing Roman Catholics as well. The problem comes in though that I go to a church affiliate with the fraternity of St. Peter. His potential godparents go to a church affiliated with the society of st. Pius X. The priest at my church would not allow them to be my daughter’s godparents saying they couldn’t because the hitch they attend isn’t valid. I went along with it against my intuition & picked other people to be her godparents, however, I am back to having to pick godparents & they are the people I really feel are best suited for the job. My uncle happens to be a priest who used to be with the society, but is now Independant. Would it be wrong to ask him to do the baptism so I can tilt pick who I feel I want his godparents to be?

  79. Liz Parga says

    my cousin & her fiancée ( then ) baptized my daughter a year ago & recently they separater . My cousin come around every day to visit my kid so she can knoe who her godmother is but it wasn’t the same for her godfather . We no longer speak to him or hear anything from him , so with that being said my question was if its possible for my daughter to be re-baptized by her uncle ( my brother in law )

  80. Wendy says

    Hi last year my cousin became my son’s godparents. They asked us if we could be their kids godparents too, but recently our family told us that it was impossible because its seems like we were returning the favor to them. I really love my niece and would love to be her godmother but if its not possible i would like to know before I get my hopes up.
    Thank you

  81. Chantal says

    Hi Jon,

    I am baptized anglican, my adoptive father is catholic and my birth mother is anglican. It was too much work for them 20 years ago to baptize me catholic so they went anglican. I was baptized at age 12 Anglican. My son will be 3 and he is not baptized yet. We attend a Christian bible church every Sunday, however I would like my son to be baptized catholic. I would like him to be educated in the catholic school system and learn about our Lord and be guided by the principles and values of the catholic church. I have sole custody of my son, his father has zero rights to him as he signed off on them. My question is if my boyfriend who is catholic adopts my son, (which he plans on doing as he has been his father since he was practically born) Can i then baptize my son catholic as his adoptive father would be catholic? I just don’t have time to complete the RCIA course with 3 jobs at the moment but I do have intentions on converting to Catholicism myself in the future. Your response would be appreciated. Thanks :)

  82. estella gonzales says

    More than 20 years I baptized my niece. I’m proud to be her godmother and have always tried to guide her especially after her mother died. Now she’s going to another churchand just found out she got baptized again . Is her first baptisim still valid or is it the secon? Or both? It really bothered s. Me that she strayed from being catholic but she’s an adult and her decisions are hers . I’m trying to be repectful to her wishes but it really bothers me

    • says

      Only the first baptism, so long as the baptizer says “I baptize you in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit,” is valid. The other church may choose to baptize again because of their own beliefs about baptism, but it is not valid and has no effect on the first one so long as the first one is valid.

  83. Sasha says

    My sister and her boyfriend are planning on baptizing their daughter as a Catholic. They want myself and my boyfriend to be the godparents, but we are both Anglicans. Would this be an issue and would we still be able to be the godparents?

  84. Leticia Lucio says

    Question. My husband & I are still legally married through civil court. We are both Catholic, but, currently separated due to irreconcilable differences. He has a girlfriend & they are planning on baptisizing her sister’s daughter in the Catholic church we both used to attend. I feel they are making a mockery of not only the church, but, of me as well. Should I go & speak to someone at the parrish & make them aware of the situation or is that something that is condoned by the church since we are separated?

    • says

      Hi Leticia. It sounds like you are in a difficult position. It would be beneficial, at least for you, to discuss the matter with your parish priest. He will be able to provide proper guidance. I’ll say a prayer for you.

  85. mireya says

    My daughter is 8 months and I want my brother to baptize her but he has not done his confirmation he has everything else .. will he still be able to be my daughters godparent if her godmother will only be considered as a witness because she is a Christian? ?

  86. Donna ciano says

    My son in law has attended church with us for years and wishes to be baptized in the catholic faith(he has never been baptized). Does he have to take RCIA classes and wait till next Easter. He wishes to be baptized now. As we are a catholic family that had our babies baptized, made first communion in 4th grade and confirmation at the end of 8th grade(all attended parochial school) I am embarrassed to say, I do not know.

    • says

      He would not have to go through RCIA necessarily. The pastor has the discretion as to whether someone is prepared to receive a sacrament. Your son-in-law should contact his parish to discuss his options with the pastor. He could very well be baptized within a few weeks.

  87. pau says

    Hello Jon,
    My husband and I are both Catholics. My husband is very religious. I usually do not attend church but I have faith. He is American and I am Argentinean.
    He was previously married and got an annulment. Then we got married, but only legally, not religious.
    I didn’t have the confimation (I am baptised and had first communion)
    We are having a child and it is important for him to have the baptism in USA in the presence of his family. I would like to have a baptism in my country of origin as well, with with the presence of my relatives. My question is, if it is possible to have two baptisms, and if not, what would you suggest. And second, if the baptism is possible at all despite the facts I mention above (my lack of confirmation, religious marriage, etc.
    Thank you and havea nice day!

  88. Rick says

    I have a 9 year-old son that I would like to see baptized in the Roman Catholic Church. I was baptized in the Byzantine Catholic Church, attended a RC high school but that was pretty much the extent of my involvement with the Church. My wife is an itinerant Protestant, attending variety of churches but isn’t a member of any particular one. We were not married in a church.

    My initial inquiries were met with a response that my son would have to undergo the Rite of Christian Initiation because he is over 7 years-old and rules relating to Infant Baptism no longer apply. Can that possibly be correct? I thought, in error apparently, that the Rite of Christian Initiation was for adult conversions to Catholicism. I’m only questioning the response because I was also told that I should check with the local Byzantine Catholic diocese (Eparchy of Passaic) and see if they could accomodate my request. Perhaps I am being overly sensitive but I felt like I was being brushed off. I appreciate any insight you may be able to offer. Thanks.

  89. Angela says

    I have been attending RCIA classes to become catholic at Easter. I am married to a catholic but not in the church. Our marriage is going through some issues and we are not ready to be married in the church. Because of this the church has told me I will not be baptized, receive the Eucharist, or be confirmed (welcomed into the church) unless my marriage is validated in the church or I have a finally divorce decree. Is this right? It sounds very predjuice. Because my marriage I will not be welcomed. What happen to free will of becoming a catholic?

  90. Miss H.K. says

    Hi! I have just decided to convert to Catholicism last year (I used to be a freethinker) and have not been baptised even though I already starting going for Masses. Should I abstain from meat and fast during this period of lent?
    If yes, then what if I ate meat on one of the Fridays? My mum bought a drumstick today and I was afraid of making my mum angry, yet again I am afraid I have committed a sin.. I found out on a website that one may be excused from abstaining from meat when one is guest “at a meal who cannot excuse themselves without giving great offence or causing enmity and other situations of moral or physical impossibility to observe the penitential discipline.” I really really did not want to eat the drumstick but there’s no one else in the family who would since my dad is a vegetarian. My mum is someone who would takes offence very easily. I know I wasn’t exactly a guest since I was eating at home and there would be no lifelong enmity between parents and child, but if I had avoided offending my mum, am I still wrong? I feel really guilty..

  91. Valerie says

    I have two kids. My husband is Catholic. We have been talking for about 3 years, to get our son baptized, now that we have another child, we want to get them both baptized together. What are the requirements? I was baptized Jehovah Witness when I was 5 and I practiced that religion until i was 11 years old. I have not participated in that church after, because my father is Catholic, and my mother had us all baptized without his knowledge or consent. Can my childern still be baptized Catholic? Could I convert and become Catholic, and be baptized as well or no?

    • KERRIE says

      Hi, I have 4 children, I am not married to their father he is a non believer and we are no longer together. I was not baptised because of there being many fractions of christianity in my family, my mothers mother was Catholic, my grandfather was Methodist, as both came from strictly religious backgrounds, but did not want to cause offense to the elder generations, my mother was not baptised, my father is Church of England. I decided I wanted my children to be Catholic, and that I would join them. I attended Mass and spoke to the priest afterwards. He gave me the baptism forms for my children immediatley and they were baptised a few months later, I have been meeting the priest weekly since then and tonight will recieve the three sacrements together. In his words he will not say who can and who cannot be a Catholic as it is the Holy Sprit who has brought the person to him. Therefore if you want to become catholic and for your children to become Catholic I can see no reason why you shouldn’t be ‘allowed’. I have been seeing him weekly for just over a year, and am involved in the parish I help to clean the church and with counting the offatory. So I can safely say I have been accepted into the community and if you truely want it, there is no reason why you shouldnt be able to become catholic, also I didnt get the childrens fathers permission if that answers a question you were pondering. Good luck and God bless. x

  92. Elizabeth says

    I am in a bind, my husband and I are about to have our first child and we would like for him to be baptized in the church but the Godparents we have in mind are not Catholic. We actually don’t have any Catholic friends or family that we would want as Godparents. We know that the Godparents we have in mind would raise our boy in the Catholic faith if we asked and would guide him through life with respect and understanding towards God. Is there any advice or guidance you can offer?

    • Jim says

      Jon can correct me if things have changed, but the Godparents are preferred to be Catholic but need not be Catholic just so long as they make certain the child or children receive Catholic education in the event the parents are unable to fulfill due to death, etc….

      • says

        Some bishops, such as mine, require that the godparents be Catholic. One would need to speak to their parish priest to determine what to do if one does not know any Catholic persons for the role of godparents.

    • KERRIE says

      I didnt have any Catholic friends or Family either. I spoke to the Priest and he asked me if there was anyone within the parish community I would like, you can still have a ‘set’ of non catholic Godparents, but I was required to have Catholic ones as well, I asked the Priest to be Godfather as he is an amazing man and i asked if a woman from a particular family would be Godmother, I also had no one to sponser me, so he asked a few members of the parish who i had established a relationship with from attending mass, therfore i wouldent worry overly about not knowing any catholics, if you attend mass regularly you will get to know catholics and if all else fails you can speak to the priest and he will make suggestions and in my case ask the people for you to avoid any awkward feelings. x

  93. Julie says

    Please can you help can my 3 year old be baptised catholic if we his parents are Church of England. I myself always wanted to be a catholic from a young age I even attended catholic school my best friend of 30years is catholic. And as children we always went to church. I now attend church meeting on a Thursday every week for the past year.which I really enjoy . And I have always believed in Christ our lord..and I wish more than anything in life I could of had the choice myself to choose my faith. And I would be totally deverstated if my son cannot be baptised catholic. Can you helpme please

    • Jim says

      Jon, correct me if I’m wrong, but anyone can be baptized Catholic. You can do it yourself as I have done for my children to protect them until the church could schedule a baptism. (I like the Church ceremony but protected my children in advance.) Just so you’re aware, I’ve spoken with a Catholic Priest and Monsignor concerning my actions and they were in complete agreement that I performed the ritual correctly. Take your child to a sink with running water, fill a cup, and pour the water down the back of the child’s head while praying “I baptize you in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ…” Thats all it takes and your child will be protected… Have someone hold your child for you as you baptize the baby so that it’s easier and safer for the child…

      Jim

      • says

        Hi Jim. A baptism is a baptism regardless of the church so long as it is done properly. The Catholic Church recognizes the baptism of anyone who was baptized with the following words “I baptize you in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit,” whether by immersion or the pouring of water. Baptizing “in the name of Jesus Christ” is not a valid baptism.

        Sacraments, by their nature, are public events. Baptism is the first sacrament of initiation and thus is a welcoming into the Church. Doing it privately in one’s sink, while acceptable, is not preferred.

    • KERRIE says

      I come frome a mixed christian background and had no problems, my children are all catholic and i will recieve all 3 sacrements myself tonight. Attend mass and ask to speak with the priest. he will advise you of the nessasary steps to take. When I saw father the first time he immediatley gave me forms to fill in, i have met with him weekly for a year and now am to become a full member of the Catholic church, my children were baptised within a couple of months of our first meeting. My priest’s view is that it takes great currage to enter a catholic church in the first place, he says it is the Holy spirit that brings you there in the first place so who is he to turn you or your family away. Hope this helps.x

    • Jim says

      Sure… Just be certain that if anything happens and the parents can’t fulfill their obligation to educate the child as a Catholic, you will see the child at least goes to Catholic Sunday School…

  94. Rosemary says

    My daughter is twelve years old and her father and I are not married , her father is not catholic but I was raised catholic but sadly I’ve strayed in these past few years. Can I have her baptized or would there be any issues ? Also if she can can she do her First Communion at the same time ? I only ask because when I was a kid my friend from communion class got baptized and did her communion the same day.

  95. Jerica says

    I am not baptized catholic but my fiancée is and we r getting married in a Catholic Church but need his baptism paper. We cannot find it nor know which church and even province he was baptized in. Does anyone know how to help?? Wedding is in may and need it ASAP!! Thank you all and god bless

    • Robert says

      He can’t have lived in that many provinces/cities as a child. You should contact the archdiocese of each of the cities he lived in, starting with the most likely to least. The archdiocese will offer a historical records search of all the parishes in their domain, and will be able to tell you if he was baptized within the diocese, and if so, at which church.

      You can then contact the parish, and request a copy of the certificate.

      Note: there will likely be fees to perform the search at the diocese, and another fee to get a copy of the certificate, however – these fees are usually small (in Winnipeg diocese its $15 for a search, and most parishes charge $15 for a certificate).

      Good luck!

  96. Joann says

    Catholics believe baptism is necessary for salvation. yep.
    VATICAN II declared this in #7 of it’s decree Ad Gentes:
    “Therefore, all must be converted to Him, made known by the Church’s preaching, and all must be incorporated into Him by baptism and into the Church which is His body. For Christ Himself “by stressing in express language the necessity of faith and baptism (cf. Mark 16:16; John 3:5), at the same time confirmed the necessity of the Church, into which men enter by baptism, as by a door. Therefore those men cannot be saved, who though aware that God, through Jesus Christ founded the Church as something necessary, still do not wish to enter into it, or to persevere in it.” (Dogmatic constitution by Vatican II: Lumen Gentium 14) Therefore though God in ways known to Himself can lead those inculpably ignorant of the Gospel to find that faith without which it is impossible to please Him (Heb. 11:6), yet a necessity lies upon the Church (1 Cor. 9:16), and at the same time a sacred duty, to preach the Gospel. And hence missionary activity today as always retains its power and necessity.”

  97. Maria says

    My daughter and her husband are expecting their first child. My daughter had asked her sister to be one of the godparents as soon as she found out she was pregnant. All our children were raised Catholic, so she was baptized and confirmed Catholic, but now does not regularly attend Sunday Mass. My daughter’s husband’s family does not think that she therefore is fit to be a godparent and my daughter was told to tell her sister that two of their relatives would be instead. My daughter who was told she couldn’t be a godparent is Christian, hardworking, kind, caring; she lives a Christian life. She would support the baby and his following Christ’s teachings. We are devastated to be excluded from this special event. I am Catholic; I am struggling with this. Will you comment please?

  98. marian says

    I have question that i think i already know the answer to but I would like it verified. My Auntie is an extremely devout catholic and she has baptised my son, she had witness’ , oils and did the same ritual a priest would do. She now claims that he is offically baptised and a part of God’s family, which i have no problem with. I am just wondering is she right or do i still need to bring him to a priest for it to be official. My son is in fine health and this was not an emergency baptisim, she did this when he was five days old as she feels a baby should not wait months before he is baptised. All answers appriecated. P.S. excuse my speling :)

  99. James says

    My granddaughter was baptized by her Catholic father under crisis circumstances. He used the Catechism and followed the formula given; after that he told his priest, who completed the Baptism in church later. I was not sure the form was perfect, as I recall he poured the water, then made the sign of the cross on her forehead while saying “I baptize you in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit.” But because he poured the water first then followed with the prayer, I worried that she is not baptized. So I did it again quite a while after the priest completed the Sacrament.

    I knew this might be a mortal sin, but I did it anyway.

    Did I sin?

    Thank you.

  100. Jenna says

    Is it possible for an adult to be Baptized without going through the entire RCIA program? My oldest son is baptized and I have gone through the RCIA classes in my teens. This spring I will be getting my daughter who is 1 yr old baptized with my son who is due in a couple weeks. My husband is not baptized and would like to be baptized along with my 2 children but hasn’t begun any RCIA classes.

    • says

      Hi Jenna. Yes, it is possible. You would need to discuss this with your pastor at your parish. He would meet with you to discern if you are ready to receive the sacrament. Technically this is all that is required to receive sacraments. The elaborate programs at parishes are a way to ensure that people have received the adequate preparation to receive the sacrament. Peace.

  101. lucie says

    hi jon, can i get my baby christened in any catholic churches that i chose? or does it have to be the local parish church near where we live? i am not a member of any catholic churches here yet as i have recently moved here (Hertfordshire).

    • says

      It has been my experience that you can have your child baptized at any Catholic church, but each one may have different stipulations. For instance some require that you become a registered member of the church, others may require that you live within its boundaries (technically parishes are geographical territories in which there is a parish church). Typically a person would be baptized at the parish church within whose boundaries one resides, but today’s people are mobile and will sometimes choose a parish that one prefers over one that is geographically the closest. You are best contacting your Catholic church of choice to learn the options to make a decision. God bless.

  102. yanin says

    I Want to baptize my daughter for her 2 nd birthday next month but. None of the Catholic. Churches around. Have classes until four more months .. can any praticing Catholic. Baptize her and be valid?

    • says

      Hello. Yes, technically any person could baptize another, but you would have to have a good reason to do it. I don’t know your circumstances yet in most cases it is best to wait until the next available time. The parish in which you reside would need record of the baptism.

  103. Tania says

    I was very close to finishing the RCIA program this year so that I could be baptised in Easter as a Catholic. However, just recently I was told that this would not be possible as I am in a relationship that is not a marriage. The relationship is a very strong and loyal one which has spanned over a decade. I was hoping after my baptism to get married in a Catholic church. Can you please advise if this is indeed Catholic Church Law and what I do from here in regards to my faith?

  104. ELW-CMM-GJM says

    I was told that in order to be baptized in a Catholic church, you have to take caticism classes..is this true.?

    How many classes are there to complete?

    Thank you kindly

    • says

      If you are having your infant child baptized the parish usually has a brief class to teach the parents more about the sacraments of baptism and the parent’s responsibility to the child as Christian parents. If you are an adult seeking baptism you must attend classes instructing you in the Catholic faith. The process is usually called R.C.I.A. which stands for Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults. The number of classes varies by parish, but usually is a weekly program from September to May.

  105. Joy gomez says

    I want my son to be baptized,i am catholic as well as the father of my child..he was born out of wedlock..we asked local church in Baguio City,Philippines if they could baptize my son(3weeks old) but then they refused..they said that it has been their policy that basic requirement for a child to be baptized is marriage certificate..is this legal?it is not even the child’s fault..

    • says

      I cannot speak to that particular parish, but it has been my experience that a parish will perform a baptism even if the parents are not married. Baptism is not restricted to children of married parents in the Catholic Church.

  106. Jemimary says

    May a priest baptize an adult
    in private? I am asking as I would
    like to participate in Mass properly.
    My mother was from Poland and she
    did not want to baptize me when I was
    a child because of her experience with a
    bad step mother and the WWII.

  107. Jim says

    Neither my wife nor I is religious. However, we want our 7-year old adopted daughter to have the opportunity to follow her own heart in this matter as she gets older. As she is Guatemalan, Catholicism is strongly rooted in her national experience. Would it be advisable and/or acceptable to have her baptized at this point so that she will not resent having not been baptized when she is older? Does she need to have godparents?

    • Peggy says

      My daughter (Catholic) married to (Methodist) and by a Methodist minister. They now have a son and want to have him baptized in both churches (with a minister and a priest. Is this possible? She spoke with a new priest at the school where she works (which is a different state than she lives) and he told her she has to prove her marriage and also have a “recent” baptismal certificate of her own. Then get permission from the church she attends in her town to have him baptized in the state where she works. Why does the Catholic church make things so difficult? Do different states have different rules?

      • says

        It’s hard for me to comment on a situation I am not directly involved in, especially when I am hearing of it secondhand. Baptism, is baptism so long as water is used and so long as the person performing it says “I baptize you in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.” No need to be baptized twice or to have two different people do it. Catholics and Methodists are both Christian and the child would be baptized into Christ. Different dioceses may require different things as far as where a baptism is performed. It sounds like your daughter should seek clarification from the priest she spoke to.

    • Lili says

      After what age does baptism become more complicated were the child had to go trought the first communion and baptism at the same time

  108. Jan says

    Our close friends have asked us to be godparents to their new son. We were baptized in the United Church of Canada, according to the Trinitarian baptismal formula and into the Holy Catholic Church, but not into the Roman Catholic Church. Can we stand as godparents?

  109. Anne says

    Due to my husband’s job, we live abroad. I want to have my baby baptized at my hometown parish when I am there this summer. Unfortunately, my husband cannot make the trip home with us. Can I still have her baptized even though he cannot attend? While he is not Catholic, we were married in the church and he supports me raising our child in the Catholic faith.

  110. Nancy says

    Can a practicing Catholic grandmother baptize her infant grandson through prayer without the parents knowledge because the parents are away from the church and are not currently practicing Catholics although they were raised Catholic?

    • says

      Nancy,
      Baptizing in this way, while well-intentioned, is a last-case scenario. Baptism should be done with the knowledge of the parents and through the ordinary means (i.e. by a priest or deacon at a church). Baptism is a sacrament and sacraments are public events to be witnessed by others in the community of faith.

      God bless.

  111. Kathryn Dedda says

    My son is getting baptised this Sunday. I was wondering if you had any nice examples of prayers of the faithful that could be read out at the mass.
    Thank you

  112. Cameron says

    Is it possible for a muslim man and a catholic woman to marry in a roman catholic church?

    Also, is it possible to baptize the children if he remains muslim but allows it?

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