I agree that it is very contradictory that the organizations that support abortions say that is the woman’s choice and then pressure her into doing something which she does not feel is entirely her choice.
Who should be consulted when a women is thinking of having an abortion? Of course the woman is there, but like you said what about the father, or possibly even the grandparents? Who can speak for the baby? By leaving these others out of discussion, it makes for a selfish decision on mom’s part.