Sounds like you guys are getting into a little bit of Pelagianism.

The relationship between man’s will and grace is not entirely man’s work or God’s work. It’s both. The Council of Orange goes into this type relationship. Here is a good dialogue that goes into the details.

[url:pqdug975]http://catholicoutlook.com/tim7.php?logo=dialogues[/url:pqdug975]

Hope this helps.

~Victor