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    Hi everyone

    if you caught on from some previous posts, I am to mother-of-the bride, (Berrycat/aka Steph) and we can’t wait for Jon to join our family.

    Since my biggest worry is overwith, I found a dress for me! and here I thought most mother-of-the-bride dresses in my large size looked like polyester tents with a bazillion sequins. Not mine however it is beautiful because Steph picked it out. <img decoding=” title=”Very Happy” />

    Ahem! on to the post, I was trying to think of something we could do on the website for Jon and Steph’s approaching wedding. Somehow I could see too many tuna-casserole recipes along side of favorite scriptures.

    The scripture thing is good, but here’s my thought; how about relating to them any kind of practical advice that they just could not pick anywhere but here from all the wonderful web visitors <img decoding=” title=”Cool” />

    Okay I will go first for an example. “Just don’t sweat the simple stuff”, our first really big argument started I believe over my berating my husband’s way of doing the laundry

    washday woes! How absolutely silly-that is one argument that accomplished nothing—except to teach us not to question each other’s laundry methods ever again!

    Well that’s starters (unless the webmaster blocks this future mother-in-law post <img decoding=” title=”Wink” />


    [quote:1zklbgoo]Well that’s starters (unless the webmaster blocks this future mother-in-law post <img decoding=” title=”Wink” />[/quote:1zklbgoo]

    I thought about it…believe me, I thought about it. <img decoding=” title=”Wink” />

    My first reaction to this was :what: but then I decided to let it go.


    [color=darkblue:2bvog1k6]My husband and I have been married for 2 years now. Marriage is awesome. <img decoding=” title=”Very Happy” />

    My advice to both of you is to [b:2bvog1k6]BE PATIENT[/b:2bvog1k6] with each other and to [b:2bvog1k6]COMMUNICATE always[/b:2bvog1k6].

    You will learn many more new things about each other each day. Sometimes it’s magical, sometimes it’s hard to conceive, but remember that you are two different minds working together with God to nourish your love! [/color:2bvog1k6]


    My wife, Susan and I, have also just been married a little over two years. I’m 51, she’s 47, and we’re like two kids. She is the best thing that ever happened to me. No hyperbole here — I find myself looking at her, when she’s asleep, and saying, “Thank You, Thank You,” over and over to God.

    I think that the best advice we got was simple, almost a cliche. If it is, it got to clichedom the old fashioned way — it earned it by being true.

    And that was, “Don’t let the sun go down on your anger.”

    Make up before you go to bed. If you have been given the grace of being able to laugh at yourself, well, then, become a ninja at it. That will come in awfully handy.


    Excellent advise Elka.
    I have been [i:1hovqeqd]head over heels[/i:1hovqeqd] for my wife (emesina-above) for almost 6 years now. Some say the fire will wear down over the years. Maybe that’s true for many, but I am still madly in Love with her.
    We aren’t the best communicators or don’t always respond in the best way, but we have something that I believe has made a huge difference in our marriage.
    Prayer helps.



    YES!!! Definitely! Prayer!

    I would like to modify the earlier post ever so slightly — well, add to it, really. Besides not going to bed with anger, I’d also strongly suggest that you cultivate the attitude that being right isn’t a thing to hold to that strongly. Be ready to apologize. I’m not saying you should be ready at all times to be walked over, but — oh, yeah, see the post by your MIL to be — don’t sweat the small stuff.

    I definitely DON’T recommend that the husband follow the wife around with a Bible, pointing out the ‘submit to the husband, woman’ verses. Maybe that’s a Protestant thing, tho’…


    [quote:1rts509q]oh, yeah, see the post by your MIL to be — don’t sweat the small stuff.[/quote:1rts509q]
    Current MIL, actually. She made that post March 2004 and we were married in August. I appreciate all the marriage advice and agree quite heartily with much of it. <img decoding=” title=”Smile” />


    When I saw this post re appear from a year ago I thought what :shock:

    Perhaps these newlyweds need lots of advice <img decoding=” title=”Wink” /> just kidding.

    I so enjoy being Jon’s MIL as you say, I have to catch myself so I don’t ‘mom’ him too much.

    To all you out there in about Catholic’s land I hope my SIL lets me get away with sharing that Steph and Jon’s wedding last August was beautiful. There certainly was enough physical beauty about it—-the flowers, the food, the ‘dress’ the people- wow! ( practically speaking; it wasn’t done with an over-the-top budget either) Anyways, the real beauty was the spiritual beauty these two people shared with everyone. So many people talked about the actual ceremony and how it demonstrated God’s great plan of marriage.

    I was impressed when the priest spoke of not forgetting this bride and groom ater their wedding day was over, but to support them in good times and bad with prayers and concern. What wonderful advice!

    So folks keep on with the good advice – I think others are getting something out of it too. Just for the record this post went 4 paragraphs before the administrator my <img decoding=” title=”Very Happy” /> son in law cut me o…………………………

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