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February 21, 2010 at 11:07 pm #1981AnonymousInactive
I hope that everyone is doing well this Lenten season.
I have a question to raise regarding peer pressure. I live and work in China with 7 foreign teachers. One will leave in 2 weeks time. Traditionally everyone goes out for dinner and gets very drunk and just have a big party to celebrate their leaving. I have been out a couple of times with them but don’t make it a habit because I am unable to drink a lot of alcohol.
The girl who is leaving has become a close friend since I arrived. BUT her leaving “bash” is during Lent AND during my Daniel Fast. I feel like I should go but on the other hand a large part of me is saying that I shouldn’t.
They go out every Sunday night and always invite me. When I decline they always ask why. I have been in that frame of mind before. I used to smoke and drink copious amounts of alcohol and get so drunk I didn’t even know what my name was. Surprisingly, no one then asked me why I was doing that. Since I have stopped and also stopped going out with people who do get drunk (because let’s face it, it isn’t fun!) everyone has asked me why.
I feel comfortable at work but I feel a lot of pressure and judgement on a Sunday night and at other staff functions.
Does anyone have any advice for me?
Have a blessed day.
EmmylouFebruary 22, 2010 at 1:29 am #9626
Are you able to still go out and have a good time while observing a Lenten fast? Is there a way you can still go out without indulging?February 22, 2010 at 7:56 am #9627AnonymousInactive
i can go to dinner and there are two or three things that i could eat depending on the place. is it okay to go out – i mean clubbing during Lent? my parents always told us to abstain from those kind of acitivities during Lent.February 22, 2010 at 2:10 pm #9628
Sorry, I didn’t know you meant going clubbing. What do you think is the right thing to do?February 22, 2010 at 10:13 pm #9629AnonymousInactive
I think dinner is fine, but I don’t think the clubbing part is okay during Lent.February 22, 2010 at 11:47 pm #9630
I wouldn’t think it would be a problem. I found a couple links that might be helpful to you:
http://www.phatmass.com/phorum/index.ph … opic=65022
Partying during Lent isn’t a bad thing, especially since it is for a particular occasion. I’d say go out and have a good time, but be mindful of your own Catholic values and morals. Don’t get wasted, but enjoy celebrating the occasion.February 23, 2010 at 8:03 am #9631AnonymousInactive
Thank you Jon. I really appreciate your feedback.
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