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Sex is something that seems to be very prevalent in our society.
In fact, many times, I must shield my eyes when I go to the checkout line at the grocery store for I am bombarded with magazine covers that cannot be called anything other than soft pornography.
One may think, at seeing billboards and beer commercials, that America has a great appreciation for sex. No, America has more of an appreciation for sexual intercourse, but not sex.
Sex is not something one does, but something one is: male or female.
Sexual intercourse is something done between two sexes: one from each sex: one male and one female.
There are two fancy words that describe the essence of each sex: masculinity and femininity.
Since, sex, literally, is, and there are two sexes (like two sides of one coin) I must explain the two sexes and their complementary roles.
Men are very visual people, and for them to truly appreciate women (not just their anatomy); they must avoid the urge to objectify women with "roaming eyes" by looking her up and down and flipping through magazines and viewing pornography.
With all the sex in the media (remove sex from advertising and the economy will collapse), one can't help but wonder if George Orwell's Newspeak, a mind controlling media network from his frightening masterpiece "1984", is slowly becoming true.
Men, at realizing the fragility of women and their job of honoring them, not only through their actions but through their thoughts, must rise above the media, and, if need be, avoid it.
Women, in these media realms, through books, magazines, newspapers, movies, and television, are rarely shown in a decent way.
Women are usually portrayed as loose (by not wearing much), ditsy (always dating the wrong guys), or "slowly easy" (sleeping with the guy after the first few dates).
For girls that are trying to discover their femininity, this can send mixed messages.
I believe that the fact that the female organ is "hidden" symbolically shows that they (the woman) are to be "hidden", not promiscuous, until she finds her "knight in shining armor."
It is her "hiding" that emphasizes femininity, and that helps men grow up and realize that women are not "land to be conquered", but valuables that, once discovered, must be guarded with their entire being.
The above picture that I painted is the two sides of the coin called sex.
The realization of this and the application of this correct definition to one's approach towards sex, will help make marriage, once again, something joyful - something whose story ends with smiles and tears of joy, and not court hearings.
In closing, I call all people, all sexes, male and female, to be sexy!
Joe Muir is an Eastern rite Catholic who is actively involved in volunteer/missions work, traveling the world and continues to discern his vocation. He currently resides in Pittsburgh, PA...for now.