- May 11, 2005 at 4:16 pm #1057
My fiance and I are both catholic. We are considering having an outside wedding which means that we will be unable to have a catholic wedding. When we have children, will we be able to have them baptized catholic? Also, would we be able to have a catholic wedding in the church after we are married outside? Thanks for the input ” title=”Very Happy” />May 11, 2005 at 4:51 pm #4522
[quote:15c6ivxk]My fiance and I are both catholic. We are considering having an outside wedding which means that we will be unable to have a catholic wedding.[/quote:15c6ivxk]
What do you mean by outside?
[quote:15c6ivxk]When we have children, will we be able to have them baptized catholic?[/quote:15c6ivxk]
Yes you can.
[quote:15c6ivxk]Also, would we be able to have a catholic wedding in the church after we are married outside?[/quote:15c6ivxk]
This all depends on what you mean by outside.
~VictorMay 11, 2005 at 5:55 pm #4523
@Victor: I think he means outdoors.
Chris, let me ask you this: what is more important to you – the ambience of the ceremony or having a sacramental, faith-filled marriage?
To answer your question, yes they can still be baptized.
Answer to your other question, you would not have another wedding to get it recognized by the Church, but you would have some sort of blessing ceremony. But, my own opinion is that I do not see the practicality of having a non-Catholic wedding for 2 Catholics and then trying to do another Catholic one.May 11, 2005 at 6:02 pm #4527
Oh ok, I thought he may have been saying in a non-catholic church.
Well said Jon.
~VictorMay 12, 2005 at 1:33 am #4541
[quote:1l6jyz5k]Chris, let me ask you this: what is more important to you – the ambience of the ceremony or having a sacramental, faith-filled marriage?
Does this mean that if we are not married within a church it is less of a marriage???May 12, 2005 at 2:23 am #4543
It’s not a sacramental marriage then, no. So technically, yes.May 12, 2005 at 7:35 am #4545
What I mean is, does the place of which they get married determine the quality of the marriage and the love for God that they share. However, if it is then what I would suggest is have the wedding in the church and have your reception outside. That could work right? :” title=”Question” />May 12, 2005 at 2:32 pm #4547
[quote:3ppraqv6]However, if it is then what I would suggest is have the wedding in the church and have your reception outside. That could work right? :” title=”Question” />[/quote:3ppraqv6]
Yes.May 12, 2005 at 3:38 pm #4550
[quote:19uzyxbf]What I mean is, does the place of which they get married determine the quality of the marriage and the love for God that they share.[/quote:19uzyxbf]
Siberian, as a protestant I had difficulty understanding the catholic mind attaching to things like places, items, relics, etc. Where did they get this from? Keep in mind that God in many cases said things like “take off your sandals, you are standing on holy ground”. He said this to Moses. There is literally tons of examples where God sees things, places, people, etc. as special. That is where they get it from Siberian. As a protestant I was unconsciously conditioned (protestant tradition I suppose) to see matter as umm……how can I put this…….evil and filthy. I didn’t notice this until much later in life. By the way this is just my experience of many protestant traditions, this is by no means the whole of protestantism.
~VictorMay 12, 2005 at 6:15 pm #4551
Yeah. I have never been a protestant, but due to my experience with lots of friends, family, etc., it seems protestants just don’t like matter.
But God created it, so it must be good.May 13, 2005 at 4:52 pm #4569
Okay, now here’s something I can challenge.
Catholics had a less than approving attitude toward sexuality for centuries. Enough so that JPII devoted lots of attention to correcting these attitudes through his teachings/writings on human love and chastity. (Good stuff, by the way.)
Like the Catholics, Protestants have had a long history of distrust of the body, along with other material considerations, due to fears about lust, avarice, idolatry, etc. This is changing, and we reached this place in less than a thousand years!
Fundamentalists are even writing books about sexuality with openess and reverence, like Catholics. Will we ever give the same seriousness to relics, scapulars, icons, etc? I doubt it, but who knows?May 13, 2005 at 6:31 pm #4572
“we” meaning protestants right?
Ya I doubt protestants will someday begin to reverence such things. Their reverences are in things like individual interpretation and the buck stops here or down with the king type of mentality. No offense Elka.
Elka you ever read anything on the Lambeth Conference?
~VictorMay 19, 2005 at 4:50 pm #4671
When I got married almost 11 years ago, the priest that married us said that we had to have our wedding in the church for a priest to perform it. He told us that if we wanted one outside, i.e. at the beach, then have the official sacramental wedding in the church first, then have a separate one outside later. That way, the marriage would be sacramental and you could still get the good, outdoor pictures that you want.May 19, 2005 at 5:13 pm #4672
That’s sounds like a good idea. I wonder if anybody has actually done this.
~VictorMay 20, 2005 at 5:17 pm #4680
I don’t know and I have no way to ask because the priest died a few years ago. I would think that you could also have the photographer take the scenic pictures at a later date, though that could be a pain.May 20, 2005 at 6:22 pm #4682
[quote:rt0lf4dt]That’s sounds like a good idea. I wonder if anybody has actually done this.
Definitely. My parents got married in a Protestant Church because they got a dispensation (plus a Priest did it). My mom was not Catholic at the tiem but was studying it and eventually became Catholic. So if you can have a Wedding at a Protestant Church, I am dang sure you can have a second wedding OUTSIDE.
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