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Hi, I am Rebecca’s Grandma and I am not a Catholic as you will come to find out. My son wants to convert over but he is also married to a non Catholic. She has just had a baby and wants to be on bc to prevent pregnancy before they are more financially stable. He feels that this is crossing the line and this has nearly caused a divorce. I feel that since she is not Catholic she can do with her body what she wants. What can you inform me about to help them?
First, Welcome.
The Catholic Church does allow Natural Family Planning, what the moral teachings of the Catholic Church does oppose is artifical Birth Control. Based on the constant teachings of the Church from the time of the Apostles forward, artifical means of preventing God’s will with regard to pregnancy are contrary to the Divine Plan. If your son is truly interested in becoming Catholic, his wife should also learn about what the Catholic Church teaches, so she can know what her husband is committing to, and understand why he is converting.
NFP supports periods of abstinance, and promotes healthy expressions of sexual intimacy as part of the love shared between two married people. Artificial Birth control has been promoted to abandon sexual intimacy for free love, and to avoid consequenses of behavior that would have been rejected by previous generations as simply base and not promoting love and intimacy.
[url:1qytdrth]http://nfpandmore.org/[/url:1qytdrth] for more information on Natural Family Planning and the Catholic position on intimacy and love.
But he is the one wanting to be converted, not her. Doesn’t this mean that he is not to use bc? How does this correlate to a non Catholic having to abide by Catholic law even if she is married to him?
I’m not intending to be ignorant, I’m just very good at it.Welcome to About Catholics!
I believe that from a technical standpoint she would have no obligation to uphold Catholic teaching. However from a Catholic perspective on marriage it would seem incompatible that a Catholic man would be married to a non-Catholic woman who used birth control which is in direct opposition to the Church’s teaching. In the Catholic Church a married couple is united as one entity. For the non-practicing/non-believing spouse to act in a manner contrary to Church teachings is incongruent with the idea of unity within a marriage. While not “illegal” it would certainly seem incompatible and therefore a potential area of strain within the marriage.
"Rebecca’sGrandma":3w0j7qjo wrote:But he is the one wanting to be converted, not her. Doesn’t this mean that he is not to use bc? How does this correlate to a non Catholic having to abide by Catholic law even if she is married to him?
I’m not intending to be ignorant, I’m just very good at it.[/quote:3w0j7qjo]
Unfortunatly there are probably several issues that we don’t know about, and some of them are very private, which he and she should both discuss with the priest at the parish where your son is taking instructions in the Catholic Faith. Even if he has not started instruction, they should make an appt with the parish priest and inform him that he is considering converting, so they can all three discuss what the Catholic Church teaches on the subject and why, so they both understand what will be asked of him once he converts.
Yes, there are other issues at hand.
” title=”Sad” /> Counseling at the parish does sound as if that would be the best option for them. I don’t want to be treading in unknown waters so this is way out of my league.
Would they see them, do you think, if he is not even in classes yet? I think that he is getting ahead of himself and he needs to start classes instead of attempting to wing this. ……..I just mean, he should do it whole heartedly and with knowledge not ignorance. In my honest opinion.
By the way, I did suggest to them to go to the priest so……at least I pointed them in the correct direction. And thank you everyone for helping to counsel me in this matter.” title=”Smile” />
” title=”Sad” /> Counseling at the parish does sound as if that would be the best option for them. I don’t want to be treading in unknown waters so this is way out of my league.
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