December 5, 2009 at 2:28 pm #1954
this might sound silly but:
when you do the penitential prayers prescribed by your confessor, are those prayers done for you to receive an indulgence or is it done because you are not completely predisposing yourself to the mercy of God if you do not do it?December 5, 2009 at 4:07 pm #9496
A few things that you need to keep in mind.
An indulgence is simply a modern application or method of preforming ancient penances. In the early Church penances were very severe by our standards. Today they are commuted to less severe actions, including those imposed by the priest when we are in the confessional. If you normally rode a horse ten miles a day, and the penance imposed on you was to walk and not ride your horse for six months, or two years, that was much harsher than what we do today.
To gain an indulgence, you have to make an intention to do so, they don’t come automatically. So if you make the inention (even once a year that let’s say, “All rosaries that I pray this year be means of gaining an indulgence) you will gain them. If you don’t make the intention, you still benefit spiritually but don’t gain the indulgence.
Those Indulgences you do gain, are only gained when you are not in a state of mortal sin. So make an intention once a year to gain all the indulgences that are availible to you by any prayers or charitable/holy acts, go to confession and receive communion on a regular basis. You will be fulfilling your obligations to God to live a holy life, and grow spiriutally, and as a bonus, you will gain many indulgences that you don’t even know exist.December 14, 2009 at 2:26 am #9512
umm, say my confessor told me to pray an our father as my penance, but for some reason i fail, does that mean i was never forgiven in the confession if i dont do it?December 14, 2009 at 5:59 am #9513
Nope, If you are contrite (sorry for your sins) when you go to confession, and the priest pronounces the absolution, you are forgiven of the sin(s) you have confessed. If you legitimatly forgot any sins, they too are forgiven. What remains is the penalty due for those sins.
To put it into terms that you may understand better. You go to confession and confess that you stold $100.00 from your mother. The priest absolves you from the sin. You still are required to return the $100.00, and you still have the penance for your sins.
Most Protestant theology teaches that once you say that you accept Jesus as your savior, any sins you have committed in the past, now or in the future are forgiven, and Jesus did penance for you.
As Catholics we beleive that we cannot be forgiven on our own, that it is Jesus, passion and death as well as his rising from the dead that enables us to be forgiven, however we are still responsible to make restitution for our sins, that restitution includes both the temporal restitution, (as in the $100.00 above,) and the offence we have made to God, by rejecting His will. This does not take away from Jesus’ sacrifice, but unites us to His Sacrifice.February 11, 2010 at 3:19 am #9612
i was wondering, is it sinful to “pick and choose” a priest?
what if a priest does not forgive you and you were too sad that he did not forgive you so you went to another confession and then that priest did forgive you, which priest would God honor?
help pls, thanksFebruary 11, 2010 at 5:22 am #9616
A priest does not have the absolute duty to offer you absolution. If he feels that you are not sorry or contrite for your sins, he may refuse someone absolution for good reason. Among those reasons are that the person is not a Catholic, (a priest has no jurisdiction or authority over someone who is not Catholic) or the person may appear to not be sorry for his or her sins. In this case the priest may tell the person that he cannot offer them absolution because they do not appear to be sorry for their sins, or may tell them that they will grant absolution, but if the person is not truly sorry for offending God and their fellow man, that the absolution is not magic, and is not valid, (ie their sins are not forgiven).
If one is truly sorry for his sins, and you are refused absolution by a priest for some reason, then you can either go back to that priest or to another priest and receive absolution after confessing your sin.
There is another case that is somewhat like the above, there are people who suffer from what are called scruples. These people have a spiritual, and sometiems a psychological illness that makes them so overly self contious that they think everything is a sin, and that they are not forgiven even if they go to confession over and over again. In cases like this a priest who has experience with people with scruples should hear the pearson’s confession and offer them spritual counsel so they can hopefully overcome the problem.March 29, 2010 at 2:17 am #9692
about emotionally being sorry; if i am not emotionally sorry for a sin, is it being not sorry at all? any insight is very appreciated…March 29, 2010 at 2:23 am #9693
DeeownMember"passionately_catholic":2aecrmjn wrote:about emotionally being sorry; if i am not emotionally sorry for a sin, is it being not sorry at all? any insight is very appreciated…[/quote:2aecrmjn]
nope. if you are not heartfully and truly genuinley sorry and you regret what you did, you arent sorry at all and neither are you forgiven. to be forgiven you have to WANT to be forgiven by admitting you did wrong and you will try not to repeat the mistakeMarch 29, 2010 at 2:52 am #9694
i understand that part, but there are times that ive performed heavy penances and yet not feel emotionally that im sorry, and there are even times that i feel emotionally sorry, but not do anything to make up for my sin(not do penance)
which instance show true contrition?
is there even an official church teaching regarding this problem?
i dont exactly understand the catechism on this situation… ” title=”Sad” />March 29, 2010 at 2:56 am #9696
One of the benefits of frequent confession, (not obsessive, but frequently enough that you become comfortable with the Sacrament) is that you develop a habit of being aware of sin, and how it damages your relationship with God. It also makes Graces availible to you, which will help you grow spiritually, love God more, and hate sin more.
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