Wow. I can’t believe that a bishop would bar women from having their feet washed. I have never heard of that before!
What you say about the hierarchy being mostly men is true, we have priests, deacons, bishops, archbishops and the pope. They might occupy those positions, but they are given those positions in hope that they will act in love and for the best of the rest of the people of the Church. All humans make mistakes, that does not mean that those mistakes are ok by any means, but I just wanted to assure you that there are good Church leaders out there and it sounds like you unfortunately were not able to meet many of them.
As a woman in the Church, I can see how people would feel this way, but in my experience, I have felt that I am needed in the church and for the most part considered an equal to most men in the church. Actually, at times, I have felt I had more power as a woman in the church, than I do/did in the secular world. However, everyone’s experience is unique and have experience only in one small part of the US. I realize I can’t speak for other parts of the world. That is why I was shocked that the bishop of Atlanta barring woman from having their feet washed on Holy Thursday.